I have the pleasure of welcoming Bryan Cohen to Sapphyria's Book Reviews today.
He is the author of "The Post-College Guide to Happiness."
Bryan Cohen here, guest poster and author, promoting my new book The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour. I'm giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post. "Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is." - Maxim Gorky
Back to Basics....It’s tough to go throughout life without regretting some of the choices you’ve made. We like to romanticize the other side of decisions, the hypothetical “how it could have been” if you’d ended up with that person or if you took a flight to that special place. For the most part, who you’re with and where you are will not impact your happiness as much as what you do and who you are.
If you’re unhappy, it may be because you used to do something that made you happy and you gave it up. Perhaps it was a hobby such as a sport you enjoyed during your youth. Maybe it was a job that gave you little pay that you left to support your family with a higher paying but less fulfilling job. At the time, you may have had some troubles here and there, but they became magnified when you stopped doing something that you loved. When you let happiness go, as Gorky says, you hardly realize how important it was to you. Find a way to incorporate some of these things you loved to do back into your life.
Your unhappiness may also be a result of who you have become vs. who you used to be. I experienced this after I left college. The shy, naïve freshman had changed over four years into a somewhat pompous and arrogant senior. I needed to find a balance between the confidence I’d gained during my four years and the honesty and kindness I’d been brought up with. Maybe you’ve lost a part of yourself that you didn’t realize was improving your happiness. It’s not easy to bring back that part of yourself, but it isn’t impossible either. You have the choice to be who you want to be. If you want to be happier, part of the solution may be an identity adjustment, and it all starts with you.
The world can be a difficult place as we get older. Sometimes, it’s worth looking back to (and adopting) the simple pleasures of activity and personality that made us smile.
Thank you so much for spending time with my readers and myself!!!
Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour. All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness. Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.
1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer's block and stay motivated. Feel free to follow along with the tour at The Happiness Blog Tour Hub Page or on the book's Facebook Page.